TL; DR: anxiety can happen a lot at night because of the last thing you ate, the last thing you watched, or that stuff that never got figured out in the day because now your brain is quiet. Manage that nighttime anxiety by managing what you eat, see, and by creating a routine that gives you great rest!
Read MoreAt times, our self-awareness informs us that compliments can make us feel uncomfortable, anxious, insecure, and bothered. However, we somehow can’t escape the natural reflex to give that “look” when we do receive one and in turn we display avoidant behavior.
Read MoreWhether it’s my clients or my friends, I constantly hear people talking about who they’re dating, and I often wonder if they're just wish dating. You know wish dating, when you wish the person you’re dating lived up to that list you made in your head.
Read MoreHow does the idea of walking on eggshells, feeling paranoid, and taking forever to make a decision sound like to you? Exactly, sounds like anxiety!! To be successful, creative, innovative or anything more than average, you need to make room for error.
Read MoreJust because the month is coming to an end doesn’t mean that your masturbation should. So to make sure that y’all continue to show yourself a little self love all year long I wanted to give you some resources to make sure it happens.
Read MoreI really wanted to talk about something that I feel is a pandemic that needs to stop. It's something that bothers me, hurts me, and makes me wonder what kind of work I and other sex therapist out here in these streets doing if this is occuring. I'm talking about...hold your breath, faking orgasms.
Read MoreI wanted to dedicate a blog post to a few Black women (and women of color) whose work revolves around sexuality and are doing the damn thing. What better timing, than Women's History Month.
Read MoreYou know what holds us back from having a bomb ass romantic loving relationship? Hint: It’s not about being single. No, the real problem is that we have been taught and you have decided that romantic relationships with others should be and are more valuable than any other type of relationship you have, including one you could build with and for you.
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Recently I had the honor of meeting with Dr. Jess for her podcast, Sex with Dr. Jess and we spoke about sexual compatibility. I don’t think it’s much of a secret that I think folk use the idea of being sexually compatible as a cop out.
What I mean is that we often work hard as hell to NOT try but then blame everything on sexual compatibility. We will say there is no chemistry, that we feel off, and have really done no work. Now, you know that I am a whole assed sex and relationship therapist so ima give you a short run down on the tea spilt in that conversation with Dr. Jess.