Self-Esteem Therapy
Do you find that you lack confidence in who you are, or even your hair or skin?
Have you ever felt like you were inadequate to others? Do you feel vulnerable when people critique you and you take their criticism personally? Do you have a negative perception of yourself? Do you have a hard time seeing yourself in a positive way? Do you find yourself feeling like imposter syndrome is part of how you live?
It can feel lonely and painful when you feel like nothing you do or who you are is ever good enough.
No matter how bomb you are at work, in school, or at life in general, you just don’t see yourself like that. When others compliment you, while you may appreciate it, you don’t really believe them. In fact, you probably find yourself wondering how they see those positive things in you or think they are just trying to be nice. These thoughts and questions can negatively affect your life, emotionally, mentally, and sexually.
You’re Not the Only One.
A lot of people have experienced low self esteem at some point in their life, specifically 85% of people. And I have to say that this isn’t surprising, especially for Black women, considering the world that we live in. We’re constantly being told in some form or fashion that we are not good enough. We’re told both passively and boldly that our kinky coils and curls aren’t cute, that our melanin isn’t valuable, and our attitude is too much.
A lot of people have experienced low self esteem at some point in their life, specifically 85% of people. And I have to say that this isn’t surprising, especially for Black women, considering the world that we live in. We’re constantly being told in some form or fashion that we are not good enough. We’re told both passively and boldly that our kinky coils and curls aren’t cute, that our melanin isn’t valuable, and our attitude is too much.
All it takes is one time to hear this, whether it be from tv, your colleagues, or your family before you start to believe it. This can cause you to doubt your value, diminish your confidence, and question your self worth. Low self esteem doesn’t just mean feeling down all the time, it can show up in various ways. You may find yourself trying to be perfect at everything and no matter what you achieve and how great it is, you still feel it’s not good enough. You may feel like you bring nothing to the table, even when you are the table.
These thoughts and behaviors can prevent you from living your best life and lead you to:
Believing (and accepting) that you’re not worthy | When you lack confidence in yourself you’ll find yourself accepting whatever life throws at you, even when you deserve better.
Constantly trying to prove yourself | It can become both mentally and physically draining when you’re pulling out all the stops and trying to give 150% for even the smallest things in life.
Negatively impacting your relationships and sexual health. Yes, you read that right low self-esteem can impact your sexual health. If you’re not confident in your hair, your skin, and yourself how will others?
Imposter Syndrome | This is when you use your achievements to mask your insecurities. You may find yourself striving to be perfect, out of fear that failing at anything may reveal your true self, which you see as flawed.
FAQs
Still, have a few questions about Self-Esteem Therapy? We have answers!
Can my self-esteem really be improved?
Yes of course! Having low self esteem doesn’t have to last a lifetime, you can change the way you think about yourself and it’s a part of what we’ll work on in our sessions.
Can low self-esteem cause anxiety?
Having low self esteem can show up as anxiety and/or depression. When you lack confidence in yourself it can make you anxious to step out of your comfort zone, whether that’s going after that promotion at work, making new friends, or setting sexpectations with your partner(s).
Will therapy help my self-esteem?
Negative thoughts about yourself and constant criticism can cause you to have low self esteem. These thoughts can originate from things you were told or things you have seen. At AnnodRight we treat majority Black women, and many of their self esteem and insecurity issues are rooted in colorism and texturism. They were told certain things about their skin tone or hair texture that affected the way they see themselves.
These are things that we can address and dive deeper into during our sessions.
How does low self-esteem affect relationships?
Having low self esteem can impact who you choose to have a relationship with and what you’re willing to put up with. If you don’t feel like you’re worthy of a relationship, whether it’s a friendship or romantic partner, you’ll accept disrespect and people who disrupt your peace.
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